Jul 13, 2017

Relationships don't even work out unless you meet after 25.

You're going to be the only sibling who doesn't get a divorce.

 

Jul 13, 2017

You graduated college got a job and car just go to a bar or something I don't know

 

Jul 13, 2017

Approach women IRL.

 

Jul 13, 2017

Well you're already halfway there if you're a college grad with a decent job. And except for Jay Zeus, there's no such thing as ugly people just lazy people. Go to the gym and get a better haircut or something. As for girls though, you could be the richest and best looking guy in the world but still have confidence issues. There's not much you can do about it apart from talking to girls and slowly realising they're just people like you and me and there's no reason to be intimidated by them. 23 is young. I'm 28 and I don't have a degree or a good job smh some people don't know how good they have it. Mano lost his virginity at 29 it's never too late

 

Jul 13, 2017

Looks aren't everything that's where you're f---ing up.

 

Jul 13, 2017

given you don't have a gf, I'd say not very f-----

 

Jul 13, 2017

The fact your dad sat you down about that makes me think he's an absolute fuckwit. I'm 23 and technically never had a girlfriend. Why do you need one? Most chicks are lunatics at this age and will most likely hurt you anyway. Who gives a f---? Just keep doin what you're doin. Havin a gf at 23 isn't some achievement you need under your belt. Most people suggest not to worry about that s--- until later and just enjoy single life while you're young and can.

s--- move by your dad. f--- that. Who does he think he is?

 

Jul 13, 2017

I know this advice is lowkey trash but just be yourself. Ive never seen anyone getting a gf when they were trying to get a gf. It all will come at the right time. Just chill, f--- what people think, and maybe open your eyes a little wider, maybe there already is a girl who likes you. Nothing to be worried about brother

 

Jul 13, 2017

I feel you, but how often do you see these IG models on the street? Life's not IG feed bro and I'm sure you know it. Just talk to women, even if she's not hot she might be a good friend and partner. You have nothing to lose, so just go for it.

 

Jul 13, 2017

You're not f-----.

Still young
Got a job
Got a car

Just focus your energy on finding someone but it's not the be all and end all.

 

Jul 13, 2017

So without going into much detail, I feel like I am at point in my life where I have far crossed the point of no return..

All my siblings are in relationships right now, I am the only one who is not.. In fact, at the age of basically 23 I've never even had a relationship before.. Aside from close family and literally my childhood best friend, no one knows this.

Recently my Dad sat me down and talked to me about how concerned he was that I've not gotten a GF and he's worried that I'll miss out on so much. Now, I know my Dad meant well and he's trying to help me out, but this might be one of the most embarrassing confidence crushing things to hear your own father wonder why you can't get a GF.. What he doesn't know is that pretty much short of any online dating that requires payment, I've tried it...

I've legit at best made two friends in the last 2-3 years on dating apps.. Laid none of them, got friendzoned. At the moment, I'm in code red panic mode. I know I'm not the most attractive guy, I've always tried to stay in shape and get complimented all the time for dressing well but d---, I must be one ugly motherfker to not even get an average looking girl to hit me back. I can spear a land whale with ease, but a 6 of above is literally impossible.

So, how f----- am I?

 

Jul 14, 2017

d--- ur dad is a f---ing savage

 

Jul 13, 2017

Word, and do you really want to be with a chick constantly snapping pics for snapchat or instagram? Obviously physical attraction has to be there but look for the personality to. Don't get caught up in being single TC, play Bon Jovi it's my life and tell your dad to FECK OFF. 23 is still super young. Would you rather be married now and then potentially/most likely divorced/separated at 30?

 

Jul 13, 2017

apps like Tinder are for more casual use. in other words, people use it when they're bored and its not something that most people take seriously. however, there are online dating sites in which people take it more seriously and are REALLY trying to meet people. match.com is one of them. you should try it. there's nothing to be ashamed about in using that.

graduating school and having a job and a car are all things i think women would admire. and you're only 23.....so you got plenty of time and you'll be fine dude

 

Jul 13, 2017

If her personality isn't garbage she's not average girl, she's a keeper. The good thing is you realised what was wrong with you. Like I said, just go out here and there, try to talk with women without forcing yourself to finding one like right now, and good things will happen for sure.

 

Jul 13, 2017

Honestly you got lot's of time.. When i was 23 i thought i didn't have much time either but now i'm 33 and it feels like a lifetime ago.. A lot can happen in 10 years.. and 33 is still fairly young.. Don't put too much pressure on yourself.. Don't really have any advice other then it's not the end of the line.. It might happen tomorrow, or next year, or 2 years from now.. Point is at 23 you still have your whole life ahead of you. Concentrate on having fun and living your life. You might meet somebody at a concert of a band you like etc.. Don't stress too much.

 

Jul 14, 2017

This thread blew up

Idk if it was providential or karma, but I actually got a callback on basically my dream job today. About a 30k raise with just an all around better job, it would be life changing to get it and would put my degree to use. I was feeling pretty down when I made this thread honestly, but y'all gave some solid advice. One of the things I do appreciate about S.80 is the respect most people get treated with when they are asking for it, and a touchy subject like this y'all helped me think differently without belittling me.

The biggest take away I got: 23 isn't some sort of death sentence. I'm literally in the prime of life and should focus on just doing me and letting what comes, come. Putting worry into me never finding someone does nothing for me, and actually probably sets me back as women can sniff out weakness like desperation or insecurity. So that's what ima do. Ima ball tf out whether I get this new job or not.

And I understand the frustration with my Dad, but he genuinely didn't mean ill, he's just a concerned parent and I know alot of it comes from my mother who really views success ad whether her kids are married or not. It's an old way of thinking and she's not gonna change that tbh. But I'm just going to take it as they love me and just want me to be happy and not miss out. Yeah it kinda made me hyper self aware, but y'all really did help me see how good I currently have it and not to worry about finding someone ASAP.