Nov 19, 2015

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so recently, a friend of mine asked me ..

if I decide to never get married in the traditional sense of a Christian marriage (1 man and 1 woman unified by God), would I join him in a polygamous relationship. The pros that were described to me were:

1. division of roles = no one woman would have to do everything
2. help with childcare = so if there were children involved all the children would be taken care of as if they're your own.
3.No favoritism in the sense of this child came from my womb, so I treat him/her differently than the child bore from his other gf.
4. guaranteed d-ck = d-ck whenever I wanted
5. no hierarchy between women = love would be divided equally between all the women in the relationship.

So would anyone, ladies or males participate in a polygamous relationship. Why/ why not?

Also would any males be up to being in a polygamous relationship with a female who has other males (the opposite to being in a polygamous relationship with multiple females?)

For me the way I saw it when he first described it to me was that he just wanted to f--- a bunch of b------s and not have to worry about them f---in no one else. But after thinking about it, (and being single and less hopeful everyday that ill ever get married) I could appreciate the division of roles...like say one night I don't feel like sucking his d-ck....gf over there could do it and then take my child to school the next morning, no stress no hate, etc. But I always think about how it would make me feel emotionally to see the person I love sharing that love with someone else. But its like that sounds so selfish when I say it out loud.

your thoughts? :PurpleSprite:

 

Nov 19, 2015

No that's r-----ed and f-----

 

Nov 19, 2015

Nah I'm good, I imagine it'd be impossible to actually develop a loving relationship with a person who's dividing their attention. I barely have enough time for my girlfriend now between school and work, if you're just looking for d-ck then get a friends with benefits. Also that's kinda messed up for the kids, "mommy's tired today so daddy's other wife is taking you to school today"

And how would holidays work exactly? I can't imagine it going over well with your family

 

Nov 19, 2015

"I imagine it'd be impossible to actually develop a loving relationship with a person who's dividing their attention"

This.

Also why am I agreeing with @Nori on something?

 

Nov 19, 2015

Noris gimmick finally says something intelligent

 

Nov 19, 2015

now kiss and make up lol

 

Nov 19, 2015

I couldn't imagine myself doing this long term, if I were to ever try it....also I wouldn't involve children...I feel like things could get a little messy ..but then again it depends on the people involved.

 

Nov 19, 2015

 

Nov 19, 2015

nice to see all of these one woman men in here

 

Nov 19, 2015

#nowomanman #virgin #spendstoomuchtimeons80gang

 

Nov 19, 2015

I couldn't be in a polygamous relationship. I've never been too successful with women so getting the attention of two at once would be unlikely. Also, I wouldn't be down with sharing a woman with another dude.

Your friend is describing this as a complete lifestyle rather than just intimacy. It's not a lifestyle I could personally live, although it is still quite a normal thing in some cultures around the world.

Personally I think polygamy should only be limited to casual Friends With Benefits at the most, and even that is a stretch as it can often turn out to be very messy later on. I couldn't even see myself doing the FWBs thing either, even if I could.

 

Nov 19, 2015

I got no beef with Nori. I'm just surprised it was on-topic and not perverted

As for this lifestyle tho. How would him having 4-5 women not make you insecure? Could you love a man and devote your life and attention to him when he is dividing his attention on more than one woman? He's bound to have a favorite, even if you do have some kinda schedule where he is with one woman one night and with you on the next. Someone is gonna be better at stuff than the other wifes. What if you don't s--- a d-ck as well and he asks you to do chores every time you're next on the schedule?

I'm bring up schedules btw cause from what I've seen that's how they "share" the husband. It's not really "d-ck whenever you want" as you put it, depending on the guy

EDIT: As from a male's perspective, yes having more than one wife sounds exciting but I couldn't do it.

 

Nov 19, 2015

you guys would be surprised how common this stuff actually is lol

i would never do it tho

 

Nov 19, 2015

@Boyz N The Suburbs

do you mean polygamous relationship in general?

or specifically with multiple men or multiple women?

 

Nov 19, 2015

MY family for d--- sure wouldn't understand it, and they would probably think I were crazy..lol I can imagine dividing up the days you spend with each members family like on some type of schedule.

And true, it would be difficult to divide the time, but I imagine that would depend on the people involved. They would have to be understanding .
And with the polygamous relationship the other person is not having sex with anyone outside of the relationship, you don't get that guarantee with FWBs.

The persons relationship with the child wouldn't be explained that way. I do agree though involving children can be a bit messy.

 

Nov 19, 2015

Thank you for your honest answer ...When you put it that way it does sound like some sort of lifestyle...the topic came about in a conversation we were having about building a Utopia.

 

Nov 19, 2015

Polygamous

I just think it's stupid and a waste of time. Why not just be single or in an open relationship

I would imagine if you really loved someone you wouldn't want to be sharing it

 

Nov 19, 2015

LOL

So for me personally that many women would definitely make me insecure. Even 1 woman looking at my man and I'm ready to snatch her f---in eyeballs out...but on another note, The women would have to understand and the man would have to be able to handle all of those women. Also it was told that the women would also serve the purpose of pleasuring themselves and each other. So if one s----d d-ck good and equally ate p---- good, she would do that for the other women. So they would help out with that as well.

 

Nov 19, 2015

So the women would also love each other, in some situations they choose the number of women and which women is apart of the relationship.

 

Nov 19, 2015

Would it be different if the choice was completely up to the woman/women?