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  1. Worm
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    Apr 21, 2018
    Hey guys what's worse. A friend who slits your throat or a friend who doesn't show up when they said they would?
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  2. Johnny Guitar
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    Apr 21, 2018
    Being a dad is hard work. Most people aren't good at being a dad, or they don't want to bother.
    So it's better not to have a father at all if he's a shithead or is abusive and has no idea what he's doing.
    I didn't have one growing up and it was tough. I had to learn a lot of stuff myself, stuff that dad's are supposed to teach you.
    But, I'm glad things turned out the way they did. I got to decide who I want to be and had no one pushing me around and telling me what I should to be.
     
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    Apr 21, 2018
    Abusive is worse. Harder to recover from it

    Personally I use my father as motivation. Grow from it. No point in letting it hold me back
     
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  4. DKC
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    Apr 21, 2018
    Most people I know with absentee fathers turned out fine. Most people I know with abusive fathers did not.

    edit: or rather than saying they didn't turn out fine I should say they had a lot more issues to deal with to become OK with themselves
     
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    Apr 23, 2018
    Really don't understand how this is a question. An abusive father is obviously worse than a father that isn't there
     
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    Apr 21, 2018
    An abusive father is worse. They can leave you with trust issues and low self-esteem. You may even pick up some of their bad habits and internalize their behavior. As mentioned above, most folks I know who grew up without a father turned out fine, because a dedicated mother can play both roles or keep you in close proximity to other good male role models.
     
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    a fa---- son like tony that thinks sex has to be deep and emotional
     
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    Apr 21, 2018
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    Apr 21, 2018
    Abusive. You get really conflicted and start to doubt yourself if they care or not and why they are abusive.
    With an absent father you have questions but you aren't mindfucked on a regular basis over it, it's more of a permanent kind of thing.
     
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