Nov 6, 2018

I think this whole thing would be resolved if you dated @Pizza Hut

He's no longer a virgin
He's not the jealous type
He'll s--- your toes while you watch Netflix

 

Nov 6, 2018

Yea ur bf is obviously p---- no offense.
Let me ask u one thing, does he take online quizzes to figure out his own political beliefs? Cus u might be dating @Michael Myers

 

Nov 6, 2018

This is pretty pathetic anyway you look at it. You're going out drinking with random dudes you barely know and you're wondering why your boyfriend doesn't like it?

I want to live in your reality. Also, you, along with the dudes in here white-knighting for you have villified and labeled your boyfriend insecure. What if he feels disrespected. I sure asf would because being in a relationship and going out drinking with people you barely know of the opposite sex is just that- disrespectful. Why do it? I mean look if you want to do that kind of s--- do it. But have some respect for yourself and your boyfriend and end your relationship first. Because these men absolutely aren't going out for drinks with you to be your friend. And based on your first paragraph and your reaction to his actions/inactions as your manager I've got a feeling you'd lose your s--- if he was doing what you were doing. Sorry if this is harsh but it's the truth.

TLDR- @JMG hit the nail on the head.

 

Nov 5, 2018

Your bf telling you who you can & can’t hang out with is already a red light. Him being insecure isn’t an excuse to control your life. If you guys are dating, he should trust you, period. As far as him being ok with dudes harassing you & other female employees, he sounds like a pretty s-----y manager (no offense lol). Like, yeah he should care that drunk idiots are harrassing you because you’re his gf but even if you weren’t, he should still care because he’s the manager. It’s his job to stand up for his employees — especially when it comes to something like harassment.

 

Nov 6, 2018

I mean, at least he'll come home with pizza every night. Cant argue with that

 

Nov 6, 2018

Enigma as usual tryna break homes smfh! I would suggest you to post this thread to your boyfriends ears directly and see what replies he comes up first! He might just not know your STRUGGLE!! Talk to him

 

Nov 6, 2018

dump him, punch one of the creeps, and thot it up

 

Nov 6, 2018

having your bf as your boss is your first mistake. I used to work in a restaurant/bar so I get it, it's easy to meet someone in that industry, but you have to see that person EVERY day. There's no escaping it. Get in a fight and having to work a shift with them is terrible, not to mention he has authority over you. But the fact that he doesn't care if some pervert is harassing you because he doesn't want to lose his business tells you all you need to know where this is going

Also disagree with everyone saying the bf is insecure you're going out with other guys. I mean he could be, depends on the situation. If you're hanging out with guys from work in a group setting or someone you grew up with that's totally fine. If you're getting random guys walking in the bar asking you to go out and grab a drink with them, then I can see the cause for concern (I've seen that hostel movie). No guy over 16 wants to be just friends with a girl unless they're gay or @dna hits

but TLDR; your bf is a p----

 

Nov 6, 2018

Kinda did last night on shift, some younger dude/ in my peer group asked to kiss me while I was on shift, I said he could on my cheek, of course other staff around. But if the harassment is okay form the older creepy dudes then I'll welcome it from younger guys. Cant be discriminating and s--- right?

 

Nov 7, 2018

Yeah but like if you’re dating someone, shouldn’t you trust that person enough to not...you know...cheat on you lol. The need to micromanage your significant other is so toxic imo. If you feel the need to tell your SO who they can & cant hang out with because you’re afraid of what might happen, why are you even dating them?

 

Nov 6, 2018

- see on the one hand I understand where he is coming from because I wouldn't necessarily want him hanging out with other chicks that I didn't know. He does hang with colleagues who I think are a 'bad influence' but I do try to live by 'you do you boo'

- The manager stance I agree with. I do not think it is right to let your female staff (and clients) be harassed, to be witness to it, and be okay with it.

It's not 100% confirmed but pretty high likelihood that his ex of 8 years cheated on him
And we kiiiind of discussed it the other night, I brought it up drunkenly which turned intro an argument and him basically telling me I was being childish and the way the locals are is just how it is and to deal with it. ( from what I remember)

I am not hanging out with guys from work. Because we work together and live together I have tried to carve out a social group separate to the one at work that he socialises with to try to have some separation and independence (my psychs say you need that), so he doesn't know these dudes so I do understand where he is coming from in being cautious about me hanging out with other guys. But... I also feel that if he is is okay with me having to put up with old skeezy dudes then he should be fine with me taking control of my body and countering that with younger local dudes wanting to hang out if I feel comfortable doing that.

 

Nov 5, 2018

I feel like this scenario is more common than it should be tbh