Nov 6, 2018I think this whole thing would be resolved if you dated @Pizza Hut
He's no longer a virgin
He's not the jealous type
He'll s--- your toes while you watch Netflix
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Nov 6, 2018
Yea ur bf is obviously p---- no offense.
Let me ask u one thing, does he take online quizzes to figure out his own political beliefs? Cus u might be dating @Michael MyersBIGFOOT, Ordinary Joel, asvdawg and 5 others like this. -
Nov 6, 2018
This is pretty pathetic anyway you look at it. You're going out drinking with random dudes you barely know and you're wondering why your boyfriend doesn't like it?
I want to live in your reality. Also, you, along with the dudes in here white-knighting for you have villified and labeled your boyfriend insecure. What if he feels disrespected. I sure asf would because being in a relationship and going out drinking with people you barely know of the opposite sex is just that- disrespectful. Why do it? I mean look if you want to do that kind of s--- do it. But have some respect for yourself and your boyfriend and end your relationship first. Because these men absolutely aren't going out for drinks with you to be your friend. And based on your first paragraph and your reaction to his actions/inactions as your manager I've got a feeling you'd lose your s--- if he was doing what you were doing. Sorry if this is harsh but it's the truth.
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Nov 5, 2018
Your bf telling you who you can & can’t hang out with is already a red light. Him being insecure isn’t an excuse to control your life. If you guys are dating, he should trust you, period. As far as him being ok with dudes harassing you & other female employees, he sounds like a pretty s-----y manager (no offense lol). Like, yeah he should care that drunk idiots are harrassing you because you’re his gf but even if you weren’t, he should still care because he’s the manager. It’s his job to stand up for his employees — especially when it comes to something like harassment.Ordinary Joel, Jimelej, asvdawg and 4 others like this. -
Nov 6, 2018
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Nov 6, 2018
Enigma as usual tryna break homes smfh! I would suggest you to post this thread to your boyfriends ears directly and see what replies he comes up first! He might just not know your STRUGGLE!! Talk to himOrdinary Joel, asvdawg, Mudkip and 3 others like this. -
Nov 6, 2018
dump him, punch one of the creeps, and thot it upBIGFOOT, Ordinary Joel, Mudkip and 2 others like this. -
Nov 6, 2018
having your bf as your boss is your first mistake. I used to work in a restaurant/bar so I get it, it's easy to meet someone in that industry, but you have to see that person EVERY day. There's no escaping it. Get in a fight and having to work a shift with them is terrible, not to mention he has authority over you. But the fact that he doesn't care if some pervert is harassing you because he doesn't want to lose his business tells you all you need to know where this is going
Also disagree with everyone saying the bf is insecure you're going out with other guys. I mean he could be, depends on the situation. If you're hanging out with guys from work in a group setting or someone you grew up with that's totally fine. If you're getting random guys walking in the bar asking you to go out and grab a drink with them, then I can see the cause for concern (I've seen that hostel movie). No guy over 16 wants to be just friends with a girl unless they're gay or @dna hits
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Nov 6, 2018
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Nov 7, 2018
But the situation where mimi and her bf/boss are in is kinda tricky I guess. It's hard for the guy to both please her and his (other) coworkers in this situation. Agree or disagree, I can understand his position is kinda s-----y.Mimi, Ordinary Joel and Enigma like this. -
Nov 7, 2018
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Nov 6, 2018
And oof, yeah, drunken discussions about serious topics can easily turn bad. That's pretty f----- up his response was "just deal with it" imo. I'm far from qualified to give relationship advice (esp to people I've never met irl lol) but I think that's something that's just gonna fester and turn to resentment if it's not dealt with. It's also just...not OK.Ordinary Joel, Fire Squad and Mimi like this. -
Nov 6, 2018
- The manager stance I agree with. I do not think it is right to let your female staff (and clients) be harassed, to be witness to it, and be okay with it.
And we kiiiind of discussed it the other night, I brought it up drunkenly which turned intro an argument and him basically telling me I was being childish and the way the locals are is just how it is and to deal with it. ( from what I remember)
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Nov 5, 2018
Yeah, pretty much what Enigma said.
I don't know your bf obviously but like with most things in relationships I'd just be honest with him about the way you feel about both things, cuz it's definitely not OK to be sexually harassed at work and if you're in a relationship you should be able to trust your SO to hang with people of the opposite sex.
And you never know, could be that something happened to him in a past relationship that makes him feel insecure about you hanging with new guy friends (though that still doesn't make that controlling nature OK, but by talking about it you might be able to work through it and figure out where it stems from).Ordinary Joel, Mimi and Enigma like this. -
Nov 5, 2018
I feel like this scenario is more common than it should be tbhOrdinary Joel, Mimi and 6ix9ineWithThe9 like this.