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Serious How fucked am I?

Started by FBG President, Jul 13, 2017, in Life

  1. FBG President
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    FBG President

    Jul 13, 2017 S.80's #1 OKC Thunder fan

    So without going into much detail, I feel like I am at point in my life where I have far crossed the point of no return..

    All my siblings are in relationships right now, I am the only one who is not.. In fact, at the age of basically 23 I've never even had a relationship before.. Aside from close family and literally my childhood best friend, no one knows this.

    Recently my Dad sat me down and talked to me about how concerned he was that I've not gotten a GF and he's worried that I'll miss out on so much. Now, I know my Dad meant well and he's trying to help me out, but this might be one of the most embarrassing confidence crushing things to hear your own father wonder why you can't get a GF.. What he doesn't know is that pretty much short of any online dating that requires payment, I've tried it...

    I've legit at best made two friends in the last 2-3 years on dating apps.. Laid none of them, got friendzoned. At the moment, I'm in code red panic mode. I know I'm not the most attractive guy, I've always tried to stay in shape and get complimented all the time for dressing well but DAMN, I must be one ugly motherfker to not even get an average looking girl to hit me back. I can spear a land whale with ease, but a 6 of above is literally impossible.

    So, how fucked am I?
     
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    Jul 13, 2017 S.80's #1 OKC Thunder fan

    Brief TL; DR

    23, never had a GF
    Unattractive (probably more than my friends let on or I care to think)
    Good hygiene, well dressed (so people say)
    2-3 years on multiple apps with 0 real success

    Other things to briefly add

    College grad
    Nice job
    Better car
    Very social
    0 confidence with women tho
     
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    Jul 13, 2017 Banned

    You graduated college got a job and car just go to a bar or something I don't know
     
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    Honestly you got lot's of time.. When i was 23 i thought i didn't have much time either but now i'm 33 and it feels like a lifetime ago.. A lot can happen in 10 years.. and 33 is still fairly young.. Don't put too much pressure on yourself.. Don't really have any advice other then it's not the end of the line.. It might happen tomorrow, or next year, or 2 years from now.. Point is at 23 you still have your whole life ahead of you. Concentrate on having fun and living your life. You might meet somebody at a concert of a band you like etc.. Don't stress too much.
     
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    people only say that because you're unattractive and have never had a girlfriend
     
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    You keep telling yourself that old man
    :westbrook3:
     
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    lol..
     
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    Jul 13, 2017 reckless adventurer.

    Approach women IRL.
     
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  10. Go out on some party, talk to women face to face and try make them laugh, that'll help.
     
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  11. Big Dangerous
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    Jul 13, 2017 World Heavyweight Champion

    Is a simple "start working out" not a good suggestion?:dwight:

    no?




    :jordan:
     
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    and if its not working after 5 minutes go ahead and gently attempt to put your penis in her rectum
     
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    Jul 13, 2017 S.80's #1 OKC Thunder fan

    It honestly wasn't really on the forefront of my mind until my dad brought it up to me.. All my siblings married fairly young (oldest was 24 at the time, rest at 20) so I think my parents see that I'm 23 and not even close and freak out.

    I've mainly been focusing on advancing up my job and upgrading my pad + car. But now it's like woah, I feel so so so behind in this area when I really think about it. Idk anyone my age who's never had a relationship.
     
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    Jul 13, 2017 S.80's #1 OKC Thunder fan

    I go to the gym already but I might need to alter the routine and add more idk. I got a slim athletic build but maybe more muscle will do

    :jordan:
     
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    Jul 13, 2017 S.80's #1 OKC Thunder fan

    This was my bread and butter sophomore year, I could have had so many girls back then but my standards were basically IG models.. I'd get blown out of the water. But in hindsight, I had a lot of decently attractive girls who would hit me up all the time trying to hang lol, I just never wanted them like an arrogant dumbass.

    Idk what happened to my confidence honestly.
     
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    Do what you wanna do. It'll happen when it happen's. If your pad and car job etc is your priority then do that.. Don't dwell on it too much. if you start putting to much pressure on yourself about it, it's gonna drive you nut's..
     
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  17. If you have money pay for escorts. That will build your confidence around women. When youve had dozens of sexual partners talking to just another girl is easy

    Also, with tinder, it is very easy to hook up with a 6. Are you socially awkward? If so, refer to my first paragraph until you feel at ease with women. You might think paying fot sex is lame or whatever, but so is being mid 20s and a virgin.
     
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    Jul 13, 2017 Found a new way to flow

    You're not fucked.

    Still young
    Got a job
    Got a car

    Just focus your energy on finding someone but it's not the be all and end all.
     
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    Jul 13, 2017 Black Lavalamp

    I lost my confidence for a bit when I was in my early 20s. Life will humble your ass real quick if you don't do it yourself.
     
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  20. honestly it is never that serious.

    They will come to you.
     
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