My mother just passed away

Started by grizzyp, Dec 4, 2018, in Life Add to Reading List

  1. grizzyp
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    Dec 4, 2018
    I know I f--- around on this forum alot....but.my mother died today. 55 yrs old. I just got out of rehab and had 30 days clean when she died. I relapsed when I found out. Anyone have any advice? I'm not taking this s--- very good. This is pretty sudden. Any advice?
     
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  2. mow
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    mow long live flippa

    Dec 4, 2018
    I honestly cant say anything else other than sorry for your loss
    The pain youre going through is unimaginable, at this point I dont rly know what else to say other than to cope with the basic necessities like eat, sleep, drink water etc.
    And hopefully you have someone you can personally talk to
     
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  3. ItsPwizz
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    ItsPwizz PlayWryte

    Dec 4, 2018
    My condolences. I lost my mother at a young age. It’s a difficult thing to get through. Just got to be strong. If you have other people around you talk with them.
     
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  4. Michael Myers
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    Dec 4, 2018
    I'm truly sorry for your loss man.

    Can't say any more than what others said, talk to people. Don't push your feelings away, its a process you have to go through as s-----y as it is...
     
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  5. Ordinary Joel
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    Dec 4, 2018
    My sincere condolences for your loss mate. I'm not able to provide any advice as I've never been through any loss as personal as that, but I guess just reach out for help if you feel it's too overwhelming. Like a close friend or other family members. That way you can lean on them and vice versa.

    Again my condolences.
     
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  6. Buddha
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    Dec 4, 2018
    Sorry for your loss brother. My condolences.

    I've never lost a parent but I am a recovering heroin addict. Whatever you do, try not to use her death as an excuse to get high. It's just gonna make everything about this situation a billion times worse. You gotta work through the emotions. It could take days, weeks, or months to get through it but I promise you it eventually gets better.
     
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  7. WhiteThinDuke
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    Dec 4, 2018
    Just try and remember what your mother would want for you
     
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  8. Koolo
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    Dec 4, 2018
    depends how close you are to her, its gonna hurt for a long time, and there is nothing you can do to fill that void..you need to accept this, the sooner you do the sooner life will have meaning for you again...and believe me, time will deal with that void when its due
     
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  9. TheRealStan
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    Dec 4, 2018
    Your mum would be proud of your 30 days clean! She would want to see you at your best, you're a lot stronger than you realise, im praying for you :emoji_heart:
     
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  10. CavalierTD
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    Dec 4, 2018
    Man I’m so sorry to hear that. RIP. I wish I knew advice to give, I can only imagine, I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers man. Just try to stay strong for her!
     
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  11. DKC
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    Dec 4, 2018
    So sorry for your loss man. Can't imagine how tough that is. I've lost grandparents that I was very close with but never a mother.

    And don't beat yourself up about relapsing—it's a part of the recovery process. It happens. The only thing you can do is get back on the wagon today and now. Like @Buddha numbing a loss with drugs might make you feel better at the time, but in the end it's only delaying you truly processing your emotions. Good luck man!
     
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  12. Translucent
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    Dec 4, 2018
    I lost my dad unexpectedly to a heart attack at 55 when I was 16
    Stay strong brother.
     
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  13. grizzyp
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    Dec 6, 2018
    Thank you to everyone who replied. I'm doing better now I guess. She was my best friend. Been a rough few days. She had CVID and suffered for many years. She died alone and scared and her last text messages have been haunting me. There is some speculation she might of killed herself, though I dont believe that. A common cold could k--- her as her body couldn't produce new antibodies and she was very sick at time of death. I appreciate the support guys. Thank you.
     
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    Dec 7, 2018
    Sorry for your loss. Keep being strong brother.
     
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  15. Jay Zeus
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    Dec 7, 2018
    My heart goes out to you, bro. It's.not fair and it's not right. I really hate that people we cherish the most can be ripped from our grips like that. I'm here for you, bro. *Sighs* Please stay strong!!! I know it's tough. It's inherent for you though. One love! Peace!
     
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    Dec 7, 2018
    d---, sorry for your loss man. As many others said, take things one step at a time even if it means simply eating a meal or taking a bath. As for the relapse part, you are not the first or the last to do it so don't beat yourself about it. If you go to meetings or have a sponsor it will probably help a lot with your grieving process as well. If not, I hope that you have someone close to talk to.
     
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    Dec 7, 2018
    hey, I'm so sorry for your loss and I can't imagine what you're going through right now. If you need anyone to talk to, let me know:)
     
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