What is worse to have? An absent father or an abusive father?

Started by Groovy Tony, Apr 21, 2018, in Life Add to Reading List

  1. Groovy Tony
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    Groovy Tony Grandma's baby Eddie Kane

    Apr 21, 2018
    I was talking to my girl about how her friend's dad was abusive. That led to this conversation about whether the effects an abusive father are worse than the effects a father who was never there leave. Having "daddy issues" is something that comes from both types of fathers imo. The women here would have better insight on the subject as the father is the most important person in a females upbringing

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  2. Xmipod
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    Xmipod "Sorry uncle xmi"

    Apr 21, 2018
    Abusive is worse. Harder to recover from it

    Personally I use my father as motivation. Grow from it. No point in letting it hold me back
     
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  3. Grim
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    Grim Big Time Stuntin Like My Daddy

    Apr 21, 2018
    Abusive. You get really conflicted and start to doubt yourself if they care or not and why they are abusive.
    With an absent father you have questions but you aren't mindfucked on a regular basis over it, it's more of a permanent kind of thing.
     
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  4. Johnny Guitar
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    Apr 21, 2018
    Being a dad is hard work. Most people aren't good at being a dad, or they don't want to bother.
    So it's better not to have a father at all if he's a shithead or is abusive and has no idea what he's doing.
    I didn't have one growing up and it was tough. I had to learn a lot of stuff myself, stuff that dad's are supposed to teach you.
    But, I'm glad things turned out the way they did. I got to decide who I want to be and had no one pushing me around and telling me what I should to be.
     
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  5. Donkey Kong Country
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    Donkey Kong Country they can't understand me, i'm talkin hieroglyphics

    Apr 21, 2018
    Most people I know with absentee fathers turned out fine. Most people I know with abusive fathers did not.

    edit: or rather than saying they didn't turn out fine I should say they had a lot more issues to deal with to become OK with themselves
     
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    Apr 21, 2018
    Just based on most of the data I've ever recorded at work, definitely Abusive. A lot more turmoil, traumatic disorders and aggressive behavior that's become imprinted into the person's subconscious whether they realize it or not.
     
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  7. mow
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    Apr 21, 2018
    for sure abusive
     
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    reesey What You Looking At This For?

    Apr 21, 2018
    An abusive one tbh, everyone I know that has no father turned out fine :kanye3:
     
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  9. Worm
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    Worm Big Perm Big Worm

    Apr 21, 2018
    Hey guys what's worse. A friend who slits your throat or a friend who doesn't show up when they said they would?
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  10. Caine
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    Apr 21, 2018
    As someone who met my father like 5 times before I was 13 I definitely would prefer that over abusive
     
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    A friend that doesn't jerk me off when my arm is broken
     
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    I have no father and I turned out fine .
     
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  13. Worm
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    Worm Big Perm Big Worm

    Apr 21, 2018
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    Its like a bro blow. With your hand
     
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  15. King of Kings
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    An abusive father who becomes absent
     
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    Apr 21, 2018
    Honestky an abusive mother is worse than both.
     
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    QueenOfTheDead The Gloriuos Dead

    Apr 21, 2018
    They both trash because Ive had both if you cant handle having a mf child dont bust
     
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  18. aquaberryares
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    aquaberryares one time I made sex

    Apr 21, 2018
    J Cole had an absentee father and he's trash so Imma have to go with that one
     
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    Apr 21, 2018
    a fa---- son like tony that thinks sex has to be deep and emotional
     
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    Alchemist34 DO MY HEAD

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    Absent fathers turn sons into p-----s
     
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