Nov 5, 2018 K, so I´ll try to make this simple - my bf is my manager - I work in a hostel that has a bar that is open to the the public - we have local drunks that prop the bar up - one of them was taking pictures of some chick without her knowledge or consent (two people in power positions noticed and ´´called him out´´ but he´s still allowed back cos hes just a simpleton, no harm meant (its f---ing creepy, i feel creeped out) - on another occasion he came up behind to massage me, I laughed and said no while moving away, his excuse was he see´s us at work as family so it should be okay, I find it disrespectful to me, my boyfriend and our relationship to cross that boundary of physical contact - another older dude was rubbing up the shoulders of my colleague cos she had a singlet on, he was making comments about her being nice and ´´naked enough´´ again very disrespectful since he knows her husband who works at the same place - the stupid creep who takes pictures of our customers without their knowledge then told me he was prank calling the reception while I was working and running about trying to do work. The pathetic alco found it funny. unfortunately this is just s--- that us females have to put up with at work and we cant really complain to anyone about it But my real issue is with me making friends with dudes outside of work and my bf not being happy with it, not wanting me to go out for drinks with them and generally I guess feeling insecure with me hanging out with other dudes but being fine with me feeling harassed and creeped out with drunks at work. Being that he is in a power position to tell these creeps to f--- off but doesn´t / will happily allow us females to have unwanted physical contact is it okay for me to basically to say f--- IT and go hang out with dudes who I feel comfortable with, and if they flirt with me or whatevs, I´m consenting to it and it will give me a boost in confidence and not feel creeped out and disgusted like I need a shower. Or should I not further my friendship with these guys and put up with my boyfriend allowing creeps at work?